Married Str8 Trio – Men and Women : Bikinis and Thongs – Part 1
We’re finally back with another conversation from the Married Str8 Trio. Sorry I’ve been slacking putting the questions together for them of late. This conversation kind of revolves around men vs women in bikini and thong wearing along with how each sex looks at each other.
What is your view on how society portrays the bodies of men and women?
The Bottom Drawer: To me society encourages women to show their bodies more than it does so for men. You just have to watch some TV or movies and you’ll see women portrayed more sexually. They’ll be down to their bra and panties before a guy is down to their underwear. Then the guy is typically in boxers while the women is in a bikini or thong cut.
Go to pretty much any clothing store’s underwear section and women have options from boyshorts, briefs, bikinis, thongs, g-string, and more. You’ll probably see the sexier ones displayed on the manikins too. Not going to see that in the men’s section and most have no men’s underwear on manikins. Even look at some of the cloths in style now. Lots of short shorts out there and the tight leggings are in now for the ladies. Not saying I want to wear short shorts or leggings, but I don’t want to wear shorts below my knees. Everything for men seems to be getting longer.
The beach is an obvious place to see how society is fine with women showing more than men. You’ll see more skin displayed on most women than men. No one thinks twice about a woman wearing a bikini at any beach, but if a guy was in a swim brief there would be double and triple takes. My view is women are encouraged while guys are not encouraged to display their bodies.
Blkmlthng: I completely agree with you The Bottom Drawer. Everything from TV, Movies, Advertisements and displays in stores accentuate a women’s physique but doesn’t do the same for males. You can visit almost any department store in the US and see manikins and displays of women’s underwear but mens’ underwear is usually in the back of a store and in boxes not easily displayed. It seems as though society views a males anatomy or physique as obscene and inappropriate. The only situation I can think of where it is “appropriate” or socially acceptable for a man to display his physique is during a bodybuilding competition.
Ron: Guys in agreement with you both. It’s not acceptable to show a man’s package though here in the UK we do have manikins with and separate groin and bottom sections for displaying underwear with bulge though we were in a department store in Lima, Peru where the manikin groin section actually had a sock stuffed into the front of the underwear to give more of a bulge! Can imagine a huge outcry if they tried that here!! I recently saw an ad though can’t remember if on TV or Facebook or where which showed a guy coming of the beach in Speedos and a guy covered his kid’s eyes as the guy passed….
Why do you think it appears to be the case that women are encouraged over men to display their bodies? Do you think it is just because of the male anatomy?
Blkmlthng: To answer this question, I think that if a men displays his body or let’s say wears swimwear or underwear that may enhance his anatomy it becomes an issue of the man being vulgar or a sexual deviant. I mean let’s look at the swimwear that is mainstream, board shorts, you can go into any men’s section of a store and easily find a pair, but a bikini brief, Speedo or thong swimwear is almost no where in sight. Slide over to the women’s section of a store and most of what you will see are two piece bikinis and even the one piece’s are low cut and rio cut to accentuate a woman’s booty. I think it has a lot to do with the male’s anatomy as to why men are discouraged in displaying their bodies. Just my thoughts….
The Bottom Drawer: For males displaying their body I do agree there is a hang up on the male’s anatomy. There is something taboo about it even though everyone knows we’ve got one. I’m thinking there is something historical with it too. Men use to be the ones in charge of TV broadcasting and advertising at least until probably a couple decades ago or so. So the media’s view was more from a guy’s perspective and thus women were portrayed sexily on TV and ads. So guess my thought is we’ve been seeing it all the time for many years everywhere, so it is ingrained in our mind that it is fine for women to show off their bodies. Basically I don’t really have a good reasoning for it. Just always has seem to be the case that women are praised for showing their body while men are condemned other than their 6-packs.
Ron: So for me it’s a historical thing. Women have always been regarded as objects of desire I suppose a deep rooted trigger for survival of the species. They have the curves and bumps that drive men to want to mate with them so displaying their bodies in skimpy attire will ignite the flame in a man. I think there is more desire for a man than a woman hence the sex bias when it comes to favouring one over the other in skimpy swimwear. The designers are very good at accentuating a woman’s body to maximum effect.
Do you think that women are really against guys wearing swim briefs or do you think the societal representation of them drives their initial view of guys and swim briefs?
Blkmlthng: I personally don’t think women are really against guys wearing swim briefs. I say this because I recently had a conversation with my wife regarding this. I was telling her that I was looking forward to us taking an adult oriented vacation (no kids) and going to an adults only type resort. I mentioned to her that I was going to wear a swim brief or a trunk type swim brief for her and she was supportive in that she indicated she would wear a skimpy swimsuit as well. If we were going on a family vacation with my kids, parents, in-laws etc I wouldn’t feel comfortable with wearing a swim brief myself and would opt for board shorts or loose swim trunks. I think you are going to find that given the right environment and location a women will respond positively to the wearing of a swim brief. Of course you are going to have a small percentage of women who don’t find it appealing and that’s ok but I think the vast majority wouldn’t be against a guy wearing a swim brief, they just won’t admit it openly! Just my thoughts.
The Bottom Drawer: If you go by a lot of the online sentiment then you would think women are against it. Like Blkmlthng, I don’t think it’s a majority that is against it. I think there are women that are fine with it, ones that tolerate it, and those against. My guess is the majority would tolerate it. If the societal representation of swim brief wasn’t a negative one then I’d think you’d see more of the tolerant ones moving to approval. Maybe also when the ones in the tolerance category saw their guy in one they would become believers too. I’m also in the boat that I have a wife that supports my wanting to wear a swim brief, but I know some that aren’t as lucky as Blkmlthng and I. In the end I don’t think women are totally against the swim brief either. I do think society influences the view some, since it influences us guys from not having the courage to wear one when we want to.
Ron: Gents. I’m in agreement with you both. I generally believe that most women tolerate swim briefs on men. Certainly in Europe where swim briefs of all ranges of skimpiness are worn on beaches and pools women would accept as normal. My wife doesn’t like the style preferring square trunks. However she knows it’s my preference to wear skimpy styles and respects.
That wraps up part 1. We’ll pick up part 2 next week.