Stages of Underwear in a Relationship
Do you think there are stages of underwear in a relationship? I read this article “The five stages of underwear in a relationship” a while back that talks about the stages women go through with their underwear in a relationship. For most men there is probably 2 stages clean/new underwear to broken in underwear until new is bought for him.
Here’s a quick overview of the 5 stages. The first is called new lust, which is described as sexy, risque, kinky. The next stage is get comfy, which the writer rips on the thong for more fuller underwear (brief, boyshorts). Stage 3 is maternity and post-baby, which basically is described as comfy all the way with stating “Big Kahunas of underwear kick in.” On to stage 4 with suck it in, so this means shapewear. The final stage they have is acceptance underwear after years of marriage. Basically the granny panties stage.
Now there were some good points made in the article. First sexy underwear can make you feel sexy even if you’re the only one going to see it. Also that feeling sexy can make oneself act differently, which I’d describe carrying yourself with more confidence. Then the last one that sticks out to me is wear what is comfortable for you and not what is necessarily pleasing to your partner. Hopefully your partner is pleased with what is comfortable for you.
I don’t really feel my wife is fitting the stages. The only change I’d say is a reduction in thong wear, but still other cheekie styles and bikinis are worn often. Guess part of it is because I make sure she has sexy, but comfy underwear. I still will throw in an occasional thong purchase just in case I stumble upon the one.
I’m in agreement that both sexes need to wear what makes them feel sexy and not care what others will say about their underwear choice. I think the description of stage 2 to 5 in the article is what needs to be avoided and wear something that makes you feel good. Who cares if you don’t think you have the body to wear a thong or a skimpy bikini. If it is comfortable and makes you feel sexy then wear it. That goes for swimwear too.
Now onto guys underwear stages. Or maybe lack of stages. I don’t really see stages with men’s underwear in general. Personally I don’t know if I consider myself going through any stages with my underwear or see myself moving to less revealing pairs of underwear. I switched to solely bikinis and thongs about my sophomore year of college, so that is what I’ve been wearing from the get go with my wife. I don’t recall if she saw me in a bikini or thong first. Maybe I went from less revealing to more revealing with my underwear. All I know it was skimpy men’s underwear. In general I wouldn’t say there have been any stages in my underwear wearing with my relationship.
Maybe the stages for men would depend on what is in the drawer when the relationship began. Say you have boxer briefs, briefs, bikinis, and thongs in your drawer. I could see the stages working to skimpier underwear as you become more comfortable in the relationship. I mean I’ve read women say if my guy wore a thong that would be the end of the relationship. With that mindset I could see guys holding back on wearing skimpier styles. Though obviously that woman wouldn’t be the right one anyhow. Guess my thought on underwear is you should make sure you wear the styles you want to wear from the get go. If you wear boxer briefs only around her for a long period of time then it is going to make it harder for you to introduce skimpy styles. She is going to wonder where they came from all of the sudden or where the newfound interest came from. I guess you would test the waters and say you are thinking about trying skimpier styles and see what her thoughts are on the subject. Though to me that route should only be taken by guys that haven’t already worn them and are in a relationship already. Wear the skimpiest styles you own from the get go. Let them see the true you and say no to underwear stages in a relationship.
What are your thoughts on the women’s underwear relationship stages article? Think men and women have underwear stages in a relationship? Do you feel you or your partner went through any underwear stages in your relationship?