Swimwear Etiquette: Swim Briefs, Bikinis, Thongs, etc
This topic idea came about from a recent boating excursion with a friend. It was just a small fishing boat, not really one where you typically would wear swimwear. However it got me thinking about if I was to wear a swim brief should I give some warning of my choice? Should we follow some sort of etiquette when wearing against the norm swimwear. Now, really this shouldn’t be a big topic, but it is depending on where you live unfortunately for us guys. I would say thongs and g-strings would be the women’s suits that would fall into some etiquette considerations.
Let’s start by looking at just wearing them without planning on seeing someone you know. In general for me I think gauging a suit selection for us guys would be based on what the women wear at the particular beach. We should be able to wear a similar size suit as them. My thought is to go a little bit coservative than them to play it safe. I guess there is a little bit of factoring into that thinking we may need to consider. One is what is your age group and the age group of the females wearing the bikinis (I’ll talk about thongs/g-strings in a bit). If it is only teenagers in bikinis should I wear a skimpy bikini like them? Probably not the best idea. Personally I try to find a beach without the teenage and college crowds. I feel they are the ones that most likely will not respect guys in against the norm swimwear. I aim for beaches with a variety of age groups at least. The second thing to consider is who is with you. If you’re on your own or with a friend then probably a good idea to find a beach with a similar age group as you. Guys in swim briefs have a bad rap as it is, so you may get mistaken fitting into one of those stereotypes even if it is not the case. Especially if hanging at the beach that has a crowd younger than you. If you’re with a female or your family you most likely can get away with a variety of different beach crowds. It seems a female or kids with you helps make a swim bikini brief more tolerable along with wearing a bit of a skimpier cut. Or maybe it is just all in my head and makes it easier for me to feel more at ease!
Thongs and g-strings are going to need more consideration when worn. First you need a legal place to wear them. Once you find a place to wear them, do you just plop down in the middle of a crowded beach? I suppose if you see several others wearing them. As I mentioned above, I’d think a similar age range is something to consider. If there are a lot of kids around and no other thong wearers then probably should keep on looking. If I were to wear a thong, I’d aim to find a place away from any crowds. That would allow for it to be other beach goers’ decision to set up near me, which would mean in theory they’re fine seeing bare butt.
Guess some potential swimwear etiquettes would be to try and pick your suit to fit into the particular beach you are going to visit. The goal is to make our suit choice more acceptable as an option not to put more negativity towards them. Another would be when possible set up away from the crowds and allow it to be others’ decision to set up near you. Or get there early to get the spot you want. Act like it is norm swimwear and go about your business as you would in trunks. Don’t try to flaunt it.
How about if you’re going to the beach with people you know, but they do not know about your swimwear preference? Should you give them a heads up? I’m thinking it depends on who at least for me. If it is family then I think it is fine to shock and awe them with swim briefs and bikini cuts. Thongs and g-strings should be free game with adults, but probably a heads up if kids are involved. In general thongs and g-strings should be discussed if kids are involved that aren’t your own. They are a touchy subject with women wearing them let alone men. Swim briefs and swim bikinis with kids of families you know could go either way. Factoring in the skimpiness of the suit should be brought into the equation. Personally, I’d probably give a heads up that I’ll be wearing a swim brief. Gives them a chance to be prepared to answer the kids’ questions about my swimwear. Guess also gives them the opportunity to back out too if they can’t handle it. With adult friends, a surprise should be appropriate too. They should be able to handle it and respect your choice. For me I may try to bring up the subject first. That way I’d be more at ease and not be anxious about it.
Some etiquette ideas when going to the beach with people you know, would be more when kids are involved. Probably more with younger kids and not teenagers for the most part. I’d say a heads up if you are going to be wearing a swim brief or bikini would be an appreciated gesture. Thongs and g-strings definitely should be discussed probably when non adults will be involved.
Guess my thoughts on swimwear etiquette comes from my goal to try and promote swim briefs and less in a positive way. Trying to respect others and not push the envelope too much with my choice. Hopefully it will start negating the negative image form fitting swimwear has for us guys. So what are your thoughts on swimwear etiquette?