Just Be You
You would think in this day in age it would be easy to just do you. But a lot of us still struggle to stop following the mainstream view of how we are to be. Who gets to decide what is masculine and what is feminine especially in appearance? I admit that I still judge people on the matter. I still think that is too feminine for a guy to wear or even too masculine for a woman to wear. I remind myself I shouldn’t think that way. Though women can get away with a lot more than men on what they wear.
If you like it and it represents you then wear it should be how things work. It’s supposed to be about what makes you feel good. It’s not about what other people think a person should wear. You should do you. It’s fine to be different and not follow the crowds. You’re not hurting anyone by doing something against the norm.
Yes, sometimes it is hard to just be you when society says guys don’t wear that. Women of a certain age shouldn’t be wearing that and so on. Someone has to be a trailblazer otherwise things won’t change for sure. So why not just be you?
I’ve been trying my best to do me. I’ve never really followed trends. In general I never did things that made me stand out. When I fell in love with bikini and thong underwear it was pretty easy for the most part to just do me. No one usually sees your underwear. So I made a full transition to them a few years after I started wearing them. Now just being me with breaking into swim brief wearing is a difference story. Not so easy for me. Took me many years to finally just do it. You can read about my swim brief journey here. A new thing I’m working on is wearing tights/leggings. I think they’re seen alright for running and workout wear though probably more so with shorts. I’ve been incorporating them into hiking/dog walking. Right now that is my comfort level with them. It allows me to do me.
So I’m not 100% just be you. I’m taking the opportunities that I’m comfortable with to build my confidence and wear what I want. I’m happy I’ve been able to step out of my comfort zone some. It helped to have my wife’s support with wanting to wear a swim brief. Sometimes it takes support from someone or finding others to join you to get you started. That support got me going on swim briefs wearing to beaches pretty confidently. The confidence I gained wearing swim briefs has helped with my interest in wearing leggings. It didn’t take me long after wanting to experiment with them to find opportunities to wear them unlike my journey getting into swim brief wearing.
So it really comes down to just doing your best to do you. We’re all different. We have different comfort levels. Find ways to enjoy being you. Then work on growing upon them. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Some is definitely better than none at all.