Tips to get into Men’s Bikinis and Thongs
I was thinking what could be holding a guy back from trying bikinis and thongs. My guess is the femininity associated with them. Go to any stores’ women’s underwear section and you’ll find a wide selection of bikinis and thongs. Now go to the guys section and you’ll rarely find any thongs. Then for bikinis maybe a pair or two. Though some defined as bikinis are not ones in my book. So let’s think about some ways to get past the femininity associated with bikinis and thongs.
First change your mindset. Get it out of your head that they are feminine underwear. You are not buying women’s underwear. You’ll be buying underwear made for men. It never crossed my mind when I discovered that bikinis were available for guys that they were feminine. I just had to have them is all I thought. Here at the blog we are working on changing the societal perception that bikinis and thongs are only for women.
So if you’re having a hard time changing your mindset, let’s take a look at other things that could help. I’d say the biggest fear with wearing bikinis and thongs for guys is someone discovering you are wearing these sexy undies. You’re scared they’ll peek out of the waist of your pants and someone will see them and call you out. Or someone will notice them when you are changing in a locker room. In the many years I have worn them, I have never had anyone call me out for wearing them. Now I think friends are more likely to call you out over strangers on the subject. Guess I don’t have lots of friends which reduces my likelihood. I do have some suggestions to help with these concerns.
The first suggestion is going with a pair that has the exposed elastic waistband that most likely will be branded. A lot of men’s so called norm underwear consists of the brand elastic waistband. If your waistband gets exposed of your bikini or thong then people probably won’t notice. They’re used to seeing that type of waistband being visible on guys. Seems to be an in thing to show off your underwear brand. There are varying widths in waistbands, but my guess is wider than an inch is probably the best bet.
Then along with the branded waistband, you may want to consider a contour pouch. If the bikini and thong has a defined pouch it is hard to mistake them for women’s underwear. I have not come across women’s underwear with a pouch. Having the center seamed contour pouch that is curved to hold the package is a big differentiator in male and female underwear. There is also the flat pouch option or smooth looking pouch that will appear more like women’s underwear. To start out with you’ll probably want to avoid this pouch design. I have both designs and I can see how the flat pouch could be mistaken for women’s underwear. My wife has mistaken a pair for hers a couple times when folding laundry.
Another thing you may want to consider is fabric content and color. Most norm in men’s underwear is bland colors and dull fabrics like cotton. So you may want to stick with the blues, blacks, grays in colors. Then probably aim for cotton like fabrics over satin, silky, or spandex like materials. Basically avoid fabrics that are very associated with women’s underwear.
I’d say start with wearing bikinis. They are closest to the brief, which has some acceptability in men’s underwear. Also if they sneak above the pants and show more than the elastic waistband, they’ll show fabric in the back over a thong tail. People most likely won’t notice they are bikini underwear and think they are briefs. I also feel people are less judging of bikinis for guys over the thong, especially ones that look similar to a brief.
The end goal is getting yourself comfortable wearing bikinis and/or thongs. Easing in with bikinis similar to briefs is a good way to start the journey. The more you wear them, the more they start to feel like a norm to you. As you feel more comfortable wearing them, you can start experimenting with different styles, fabrics, and pouch designs. If you look in my underwear drawer, you’ll see my underwear choice looks nothing similar to the norm for guys. For the most part I avoid the elastic waistband brand or not. I have a wide range of colors including bright ones and I like to have prints. I have a wide range of fabrics too including satin, silk, and spandex fabrics. I enjoy pairs that mold to the body and hold you. Check out my reviews to get an idea of what is in my drawer. Guys are allowed to have as much fun with their underwear as women get to. So don’t delay, get out there and find yourself at least a bikini to get your fun started.
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Some very sensible advice. For a guy that has traditionally worn boxer shorts for most of his life, going from those to a thong can be quite a leap! There’s a lot more material to a boxer short then there is to a thong! Better to take things gradually so switch from boxer shorts to hip briefs with the waistband and fuller pouch and then progress to European slip style briefs and then to proper bikinis….
In 49 years, I have NEVER met a woman that wears men’s bikini, thong or string bikini underwear, so how can they be women’s underwear or classified as “panties”
And a good follow-up question is: If men’s bikini & thong underwear can be gay, does that mean that women’s panties can be lesbian?
Hi Jason. I’ve noticed that on several posts you have asked if men’s bikinis and thongs can be gay, then can women’s panties be lesbian? Women have always been able to experiment with clothes that are usually associated with men, such as pinstriped suits, shirt and tie combos and certain types of footwear A classic example of all three can be seen being sported by the singer Annie Lennox in early Eurythmics videos like Sweet Dreams Are Made Of This, which coupled with her cropped dyed red hair, definitely had more than a hint of androgyny. It has to be said that the music scene back in the early 80’s was awash with girls who looked and dressed like boys, and boys that looked and dressed like girls.
But getting back to your original comment. It might surprise you to hear that there are some underwear companies that cater exclusively for lesbians, such as Tomboy X. Their styles are very similar to men’s trunks and boxer briefs with the exception of the pouch fronts for obvious anatomical reasons. They are not called lesbian whatever, but use terms like girl trunks and boy shorts, and are an alternative to the men’s underwear that many lesbians will admit to wearing. Surely finding out that some women prefer wearing men’s boxers to wearing thongs and bikinis, should be no different to men preferring women’s lingerie to boxer shorts? Hope this helps to answer your question(and sorry Nate that this is slightly off the original topic).
I wear thongs and g-strings. They are my underwear and swimwear of choice. In fact, that’s all I wear in all types of fabric and colors. I’m quite aware of ignorant societal norms regarding this matter. I am in defiance of all of the negativity that will and has come my way. When I’m at the gym I find the first set of lockers closest to the entrance. This way anyone walking into the locker room will have no choice but to see what I’m wearing as I get dressed or undressed. I do the same thing when I’m at the beach. Once I find my spot off with the sweats and bam my a** is exposed for anyone to see. I’m an adult and own it.
Still, it’s pretty much in the public’s mind that wearing bikinis and thongs makes you consider yourself to be gay. I have often experienced it like that of the mocking look of a salesperson in a store or, conversely, the fact of being hit on with in an underwear shop. I also refused advances from men on the beach and even once I was with my girlfriend, both in thongs, and a man came to talk to us but he was mainly interested in me (and my girlfriend was laughing).
Certain brands of swimsuits and underwear (Rufskin, Sweetman …) seem to target a homosexual clientele and if you do research on Chinese sites you almost always see the denomination “gay brief” or “gay thong”. .
Except that I’m not attracted to men, not at all! Only by women, there are only women I can desire! I also like their company, sharing confidences even if it is only within the framework of a simple friendship. Talking about sex with a man quickly tires me because it always ends up orbiting around the cock …
I like to show my butt on the beach but not my sex, that’s why thongs suit me.
So I sometimes wondered if I didn’t have a little shemale or trans identity tendency, which is different from homosexuality even if it is not yet differentiated in the minds of the majority of people.
Is this what makes you like to wear bikinis, thongs or “shorty-cheeky”? But only those intended for men, even “Sissy” underwear imitating women’s panties do not interest me, moreover I avoid buying pink bikinis or thongs!
Here, I would like to know if other heterosexuals have asked themselves the same question …
Isn’t it amazing in this day and age with wokeness the rage and tremendous support for all gender variations and pronouns that we even have to have a conversation about getting into bikinis and thongs made for men?
Censorship by Facebook, Google Ads, and pretty much the whole corporate media, prevents adverts that show men in underwear, while women in lingerie including thongs are fine. Due to this this double standard, images of men in anything other than old fashion boxers are never in the mainstream, and as a result the wearing of briefer garments by men is considered weird and/or scandalous.
As an underwear designer/manufacturer (BodyAware.com), I am up against this all the time. In fact Facebook/Instagram has stated that while they allow lingerie ads, they do not “allow ads which contain adult content and include images focused on individual body parts, such as abs or buttocks, even if not explicitly sexual in nature”. It is not easy to show a guy in a bikini brief without showing at least some abs. Trust Facebook to sexualize abs.
It is surprising especially with how many options that are out there now for guys that there is still a hang up on them. Guess the problem is the options are online and not in stores or very limit in certain store where people can stumble upon them. Then as you mentioned that the treating of men in their underwear/swimwear and women in their underwear/swimwear aren’t treated as equals. Women seem to have less issues having their posts flag compared to guys on social media. Seems twitter lets a lot more go than any other of the main social media sites. Is IG advertising more restricted than user posting. When I looked at their policies for posting a few weeks ago I didn’t see anything about abs. I know it mentioned closeups of body parts particular genitalia and buttock. Then there were exceptions for the breasts. Do you have issues with full body photos on them?
Would be nice if we could get people to open their minds about it.
Some interesting points in the original post and comments. It may be even more fundamental for many males to not experiment with thongs or other skimpy underwear and swimwear, the anxiety of going against the crowd. Most people want to fit in and not expose (pun intended) themselves to criticism of any kind.
If history matters, look at who wore the loincloth. It was the men. Who wore the first thongs? Men. Who wears the traditional Japanese Fundoshi? Men. What about the jock strap? Men. Well, not technically a thong, but with only minor differences. Heck, I don’t even see women in the picture at all until the G-string of 1939.
I once fought the “gay” thing head on. I’ve worn bikinis for years. Visiting in-laws in Palm Springs, my father in law made some comment about bikinis being what “the gays wear”. That afternoon I went to the pool right in front of him in my little zebra bikini with 1″ sides. The only suit smaller at the pool was my wife’s string bikini. Yeah. And what were the “gays” wearing? Seems to me, board shorts. I also know a gay couple, and the wife claimed, quite emphatically, that he’d never even owned a thong in his life. Pretty sure his husband wouldn’t have been caught dead in a thong or bikini. And I, the straight guy, swam in the pool in their complex in my speedo.
Just ditch the stereotype, it’s all backwards anyway. Or better, don’t care.