When is it time for bikinis and thongs for the kids?
I should still have several years before this question will need answered in my household. it is one I wonder about though. When is the right time to allow your kids to try bikinis and thongs? I have a boy and a girl. Is the time the same for both of them? Is my wearing of bikinis and thongs going to get them interested sooner than their peers? Are they going to follow societal norms? Should I try to encourage breaking the norm?
There are a lot of questions floating around my head on when is a good time to let kids branch out from conservative styles of underwear and swimwear. In general I think it will come down to the individual kid. Girls are going to have the advantage with bikinis and thongs being acceptable along with mass availability. Thongs seem to be thought of more mature over bikinis for girls. Of course it depends on the bikini’s coverage. That brings me to one thing I’d have to factor into the equation, which is their maturity. Swimwear to me would require more maturity than underwear.
This might go with maturity a bit, but can they handle criticism. Girls the criticism would be towards swimwear and how they look in it. Boys would be both. They probably wouldn’t hear the end of it from classmates if it was discovered they wore bikinis and/or thongs. So thick skin would be ideal, but limiting when they were worn might suffice to build the confidence.
Though maybe it should really come down to when they ask. I know how it felt when I got my first bikini. Do I want to delay them discovering that? Even if I did deny their request would that stop them? Maybe my son, since it’s hard to find bikinis and thongs locally, but not my daughter. I ‘d prefer to know they are wearing them then sneaking around. I don’t want them to feel that I think they are inappropriate, especially with me wearing the styles.
I feel I’ll be pretty open to them wanting to try bikinis and thongs as underwear for sure. Of course the wife will have input into it. I think if the kids ask to try a certain underwear style we’d let them give it a try. Swimwear probably would be more of a discussion with it being for public viewing. Like is it really age appropriate? I’m sure we may need to do some compromising to find a balance in what we all find is age appropriate. Maybe allow the style they really want for backyard wear if we don’t think it is really beach or pool ready yet.
I suppose I need to take in consideration that they won’t follow in my footsteps at all. There is the chance they will have no interest in bikinis and/or thongs. Hopefully that will not be the case. I would hate them to miss out on the enjoyment bikinis and thongs bring.
What I really want is them to have a body positive attitude and be comfortable in what they wear. Do you think there is a particular time for kids to get into bikinis and/or thongs? Have you gone through the stage with your kids and have insights (positive or negative) you can share?