Breaking the Norm
I’ve talked about breaking the norms many times on my blog. That is what we do wearing what society says isn’t what us guys wear. So what is a norm? This is a definition from the Cambridge dictionary.
an accepted standard or a way of behaving or doing things that most people agree with
I’ll agree it appears to be an accepted standard, but I think it is more projected on us than people agreeing on for at least fashion. We have fashion gurus saying what is in style, advertising, media, movies, tv shows, etc. I guess a fashion norm is a societal standard of what is thought to be what women and men should wear.
It’s always hard to go against the grain of what you’re supposed to wear. We’ve been conditioned that this is what certain people wear and this is what these people wear and this is what you should wear. Some of what we should wear comes down to location. Some places are more open minded making it easier to wear what isn’t exactly the norm. Then of course there is the opposite with very close minded places making it extremely hard to break that norm.
Breaking a norm is about gaining confidence in wearing what you want to wear. Being happy with yourself and body. We think it matters what other people think, but it is about you being you. Let people judge. Most people aren’t going to voice it. They’ll most likely move on after the initial shock. Some will admire and like that you have the confidence to wear what you want.
For some of us like me, it can be a long journey to break the norm. Read my journey into swim brief wearing to see how long it took. Really the journey isn’t over with them. There is always a bit of a mental struggle at times with society saying guys don’t wear skimpy swimwear. Then there are situations where I don’t have the courage to wear swim briefs yet. Of course I do my best to avoid those situations.
The norm breaking I’m working on now is with tights or leggings. I’m taking things I’ve learned from my journey into swim briefs, along with conversations, and trying to apply it to wearing them. You can read my post where I talk about some suggestions on rocking a swim brief. I see it as you need to make the thing a norm to yourself first. That will start the confidence you need to start expanding your reach with the item and pushing back against the societal norm.
If you need help and support in breaking a norm then leave a comment or join the forums and let us know. There are lots of people that will help support you on your journey. It can take a lot to just not care and be you. Let’s keep chipping away and make some new norms for ourselves.