The Struggle: Swim Briefs
This is going to be my third summer of only wearing swim briefs at the local beaches. We are not going weekly or anything, but two or three times a summer. It was a long time in the making to get to this point and reach this goal. Before I was able to wear them on vacations a few times. It was a struggle to break out of my shell locally knowing it would be possible to run into someone I knew. Also it is just hard to go against the crowds.
Now it still isn’t an easy task to do. Mentally I still have struggles. Odd thing is that my struggles aren’t when I’m getting ready to go to the beach. My problem with that is choosing the pair I want to wear. Typically, my mental struggle is when my mind is wandering when out and about and see other people. Seems just thinking all the guys I see will just be wearing trunks if at the beach intimidates me or makes me second guess my swim briefs. That society norm that is engraved in the mind just kicks in it seems. Luckily I always snap out of that ridiculous thought that guys can’t wear form fitting swimwear outside of sports and lap swimming.
Really it shouldn’t be a struggle for us guys to wear swim briefs or the equivalent of what women wear. We should be able to feel like we can wear them without being judged (Guess women can have this issue too) or laughed at. I would like to be able to wear my swim briefs at any pool or even a water park. For me it is easier to go against the norm at the beach where you can spread out from others. People can set up farther away from you if they like or I can and people then can choose to set up by me. At pools and water parks, it feels like there is more opportunity for stupid people to arise with less space and more people.
My struggle I’m mentally working on now is training myself to take the step for swim briefs at local pools. It seems this should be fairly easy, since the times we’ve gone in the past we’re mostly in the pool. People would just have to experience the scary swim brief for the time I drop my shorts at our spot to the time I get in the pool. Then of course from the time I get out and dry off and leave or put my shorts back on. Seems fairly simple! I do feel I’m mentally getting there though it has been a while, since we’ve been to a local pool. I’m sure we won’t be going this year either.
I really think it would be awesome to wear my swim brief at the nearby water park. How great it would be to ditch the trunks with all the water activities there and beat the heat in a swim brief. However I do find their phrasing for appropriate swimwear a little odd. It states “Approved swimwear must be worn and must be modest in design, properly lined and gender appropriate.” First off, what is meant by approved other than they don’t want suits with metal scratching things up. Really the gender appropriate is what sticks out to me. Does that mean what society thinks is appropriate? Or does it mean not wearing a suit made for the opposite gender? Now I don’t think they exactly are enforcing how it is written, since I’ve seen females wearing suits I would not consider modest. Probably comes down to complaints when it may get enforced. Maybe someday I’ll become brave enough to test the waters in a swim brief.
One that would be similar in amount of struggle as water parks in some aspects would be swim briefs in front of friends, family, and my kids’ friends and family. Last year I did a little dipping my toes in on this one. I did wear a swim brief at a house pool that we shared with my parents, my brother, my in-laws, and an Aunt on vacation. However I don’t think many noticed what I was wearing, since I was in the pool when most were around. You can read that post here. Mentally I feel it would be harder breaking out my swim brief in-front of the sister-in-law and family. Guess mainly because the nieces and nephew are pretty much teenagers. I don’t think they would comment on it when I’m around though. As for friends, I really only do things with one occasionally. I kind of think he would be cool about it. He’s pretty easy going. So my struggle would be more my wife’s friends and family and the kids’ friends. It comes down to more when there will be kids and/or teenagers in the picture. Really it shouldn’t be an issue since I’m not pushing any boundaries with my swim brief choice. Again I’ll blame it on what our society portrays us guys should wear. Makes it feel when you go against the norm you are being a bit naughty. So in my mind a little voice makes me think swim briefs aren’t an appropriate choice. Obviously that isn’t the case, since I wear them and swim bikinis in front of my kids. It is just a mental struggle that goes on in my head at times.
I am definitely struggling less with my swim brief wearing. The first time is the hardest to mentally prepare for and do. After that there is still mental preparation, but I find it easier to do it especially when you have support. I will continue to work on chipping away at times I still wear trunks. Hopefully, I can get to the point of only wearing swim briefs, so maybe I can inspire others.